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Most people in the Before I Die Network (BIDN) are recent graduates, deciding what to do with their lives, but there are no age barriers, and I’ve also been given a warm welcome.

News of the next event is out, along with an invitation to reflect on the previous one, so I’m sharing my reflections and the event details:

Before I die I want to…

Find younger people to collaborate with. This is for some “future facing initiatives” emerging from work that I’ve done over the past fifteen years.

The original work could never have happened before the existence of the Internet. Much of it happens online. It involves people  in London, in English speaking sub-Saharan Africa, and miscellaneous other locations across the planet. It is collaborative work, with a strong emphasis on practical projects, learning- by-doing, sharing what we learn, and co-creating a better future.  You can get a flavour of what we’ve been doing at Dadamac.org – but I’d rather you look in a month or two when our new website should be up and running.

The future  initiatives will happen in an organisation which is set to grow according to Teal organisational principles i.e. with high levels of self-management, “wholeness” (bringing “all of who we are” to what we do) and evolutionary purpose.

For more on Teal organisations see:

Progress since the last workshop

I’ve started collaborating with EvolvingOrganisation to set up structures for our expansion, and I’m doing a lot of learning and collaborating with people who are actively altering the way people work together locally and world-wide – you can see some of them in a recent open letter I wrote to a friend – Update on People, ULab, Holacracy, Teal and more

All of this means that (if you are nearby) there are endless possibilities to get involved in some of the new initiatives and create a role for yourself around your strengths, interests and values. When the local team has grown I’ll add more people online.

(Reality check – my work isn’t paid work, but there are other rewards and perhaps there will be paid work in future if all goes well.)

My current focus / challenge around my goal is…

I’m not much good at expressing what I’m doing, quickly and succinctly, so people can be inspired to join in.

I need help in telling the story of what I’ve been doing, with Nikki Fishman and others, and why, and how useful it’s been. We have evidence of its value. We need help to share the vision of what could happen if more people joined in.

The problem is that I can’t explain the “what” and “why” very well until I’ve found more help to tell the main story and share the vision in an attractive and effective way, both face-to-face and online, so I need breakthrough communication help, then more help to follow.

Changemaking moments with BIDN

We’ve been asked to reflect on Before I Die Network workshops. What I love about BIDN is the playful, but seriously helpful, “thinking big” activities – like imagining you’re about to get the Nobel Prize, or that people are having an annual celebration day to remember your life, and you have to say why.

Such challenges clear the mind of what is totally impossible and leave space for new thinking about the possible. Immediately I address the unlikely idea huge potential categories of achievement fall away with complete certainty. In my case for instance, well, I know it  wouldn’t be for physics or any “hard sciences”, and nothing musical or “artistic” either. It’s definitely not sports or anything else on TV so….  hmm… that means I just have to take what I’m doing now and blow it up in my mind to earth-shatteringly-amazingly successful proportions and think what that would look like.

Looking at present efforts from that imaginary BIDN ultra-successful future perspective has the effect of  “Wow. That does look good. I think I should go for it.” Then, in true BIDN style, we have to speak it out loud, as if we mean it, and because no-one laughs at us, the realms of the possible are suddenly, wondrously expanded.

The next event is coming up in May

The announcement says:

What is the Before I Die Network?

The Before I Die Network is a community for people with big ambitions for their lives, who want a more inspiring way to get there than sitting at home staring at a computer screen.

We believe that life is too short to search for your dreams on job sites, and that working out WHAT on earth you want to do with your life is made immeasurably better when accompanied by good banter and cake.

Covered your desk with countless to-do lists that don’t get done? Missed out on too many adventures because you were too afraid of what might happen if you said “yes”? We know what that’s like.

So we’ve developed a set of activities to help you to plan out an achievable path towards your wildest ambitions. For the first time, we’re spreading our workshop across TWO days to give you more time and tools to find clarity and take action.

Full details and booking